I view three things in my life as emotional/mental boundaries, one is my religion, my upbringing and my circumstances in the early years. I use the word boundaries because I look back at my past as potentially dismal. I was raised in a southern Baptist atmosphere, in my church I got the subliminal messages that women are followers not leaders. Strike two, I grew up in a native American family that stuck to the old ways, where boys are favored above girls-in my tribal language its called au-day. Strike three, I have an alcoholic father and a classic enabling mother. All these negatve strokes caused something inside me to rebel because I felt being pulled into a world of crap. I was being molded into an insignificant, nobody. Fast forward four decades, I'm 52 years of age, I never married, never had children. I was afraid to have children around my family, my religion, etc. I was afraid to be like my mother, my father, my peers. Now it's too late to procreate thank goodness. But I see myself as free, free from all I saw and learned as a young person. The enabling, servitude, favoritism, lowered self-esteem; I'm sure I would have repeated the dysfunction had I not become part of the unconventional breed. It's an accomplishment for me to be single and childless.
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If being single and childless is what makes you happy then what input are you waiting for?
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Of course, not everyone wants children or a relationship and that's their choice to make. There is certainly a lot of work and responsibility in raising a child. I wouldn't say that a lack of either thing is an accomplishment in and of itself, however. Nevertheless, I'm sure lacking in these things gave you a lot of time to achieve things outside of these domains.
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Now, if you deep inside do not want to be single, but are single for whatever reason - then that is another matter. You should do in life what makes you happier, and sometimes the action itself is not a pleasant one. Sometimes you have to overcome your insecurities, to expose yourself, to take risks - for the ultimately bigger reward.
But it does not seem to be the case here, so I see no reason for you to do anything in order to change your status quo.
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For me, personally, I would have viewed myself as a loser for being single some years ago. However, my mindset changed as do most people's. It all depends on your point of view. Based on your story, it sounds like you wanted this and your story sounds like you had a background and environment which would have made it more difficult. Provided you wanted to be single and I'm reading things correctly, then for you personally, this was absolutely an accomplishment.
-Albert Camus, Notebook IV
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Exactly. A lot of people regret being single, but then, once they start dating, get into a relationship and get married, start missing their single days. Both options have their upsides and downsides.
It really depends on the perspective. It is better to know what works for you personally and go with it, than surrender either to the societal pressure or to the individual insecurities and go against one's deep inner desires.
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I don't really know how to answer.
If bad things happened to you, all I can say is trust is Jesus the God of creation. If you want something and God wants to give you something that's his, you have to ask.
The majority of men want a relationship, however, I have realized many fathers we're abusive.
You have to let the past go. If you hold onto it, emotionally you'll never move on from what happened.
Jesus is Lord. Ask him to help you.
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